The power of words

I was looking at another blog and was astounded at some
of the negative comments people leave for others:

I remember reading something not long ago that said:
"Choose your words carefully! They can have the power to lift
others right up and the power to pull them right down"!

I'm sure those of you that have kids old enough, like myself, have taught
them about name calling and the 'sticks and stones' metaphor
and how to just move away from someone if they aren't the
company that they wish to keep!
But how many of us are living by what we are teaching our kids??

This is a metaphor I heard that I think we can all learn from....
Buddha is renowned for responding to evil with good.
A man heard about Buddha and what he stood for and decided
that he would try his hardest and put Buddha to the test.
Whilst in Buddha's presence this man verbally insults him
over and over again, to which Buddha remains unmoved.
Buddha then say's to the man " Can I ask you a question?" the
man said "What?"
Buddha said " If someone gives someone a gift
and they choose not to accept that gift , who does it then
belong to?" the man responded with "Well of course the person
who first tried to give the gift" Buddha said " That is right,
so if I reject your insults and abuse , does it not then
belong to you?"

Something we probably already know, but put in black and white
can be a real reminder.

I think we only take on board others negative opinions of us
if we doubt that part of ourselves to begin with. Where we
have certainty in us there is no desire to try and convince
anyone of anything or justify to them , it just is the way it
is.
Usually when someone is putting someone else down or trying to
make them look insignificant its because they are feeling
insignificant about something themselves.
So maybe when we feel the need to insult people we should
really be taking a look at our own life to see what's missing
in it and work on what we need to improve on our self.
If we are honest with ourselves every single one of us have
issues in our life and making our way through it can be
hard enough as it is sometimes, so if we can not contribute positively
or say something constructive we would be
better off just staying away and saying nothing at all.

The Ness Dress

Thought I would post a couple of photos of Sage in her New dress that Auntie Ness made and sent over for her. How clever is she!! Sewing has never been my forte :-(

Sage loves it cause it has the twirl factor.

I had to do a double take when I loaded the photos onto the computer for the first time. The photo of her side on looks like a shrunken (is that a word?) down version of my Mother.

Freaky!!

Adelaide.

Sage and I went to Adelaide a couple of weeks ago and caught up with our family.
I have been waiting on some photos so I could post them altogether.
We both had a really good time but unfortunately weren't there long enough.
It seemed by the time we got there and caught up with eveyone it was time to come home again, but I'm glad we got a chance to see everyone.
I have one very affectionate little girl, giving a cuddle to everyone willing.
Especially Grandpa , wherever he was so was Sage!


Sage was spoilt by everyone , she got lots of new clothes from Auntie Nessa and a gorgeous little red trench coat from Auntie Ang ( which I just love!) and Rosemary made Sage a beautiful sun catcher for her room. One of the highlights of Sages trip was Rosemary and Rob's turtle, which Sage hasn't stopped talking about since!

The photo of Sage in the ball pit with nothing but her undies on, was taken when we were getting ready to go home. She took off in between changes of clothes.
Ness had to run in there after her and ply her fingers off the net. Sage thought it was hysterical, so did I.

1.Sage and Grandpa
2.Sage and Uncle Adrian
3. Sage and Uncle Rob
4. Sage and Auntie Angelina
5. Sage and Grandma
7-10. Sage and Nanna
11. Sage and Rosemary
12. Sage and Kara
13. Sage and Auntie Nessa

Poem for Mums.

This was an email sent to me, I'm posting it for all the Mums!


Before I was a Mum:I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.I never thought about immunisations.Before I was a Mum - I had never been puked on, pooped on,chewed on & peed on.I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.I slept all night.Before I was a Mum:I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.Or give shots.I never looked into teary eyes and cried.I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.Before I was a Mum:I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put them down.I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt.I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.I never knew that I could love someone so much.I never knew I would love being a Mum.Before I was a Mum:I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.Before I was a Mum:I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache, theamazement or the satisfaction of being a Mum.I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mum.

FEAR

Fear can be so painful that we will do almost anything to avoid it.
Much of our lives are spent avoiding our fears and paying for the price of avoidance.
To avoid these fears/emotions we sometimes change or distract our states with all sorts of unhealthy habits, thoughts and emotions.
What we are unwilling to experience can run our lives, for example if we fear flying we stay out of planes , if we fear love we try and live without it.
Unfortunately we often wait and allow ourselves to be faced with more pain than we can tolerate, before deciding to take action and make change happen, and so we continue doing what we are doing.

example:
He associates pain with love. In his last relationship he found himself left alone and lonely. So what does he do?
He avoids love, and stays alone because of the fear of being left alone (its a contradiction).
he is living his fear anyway!

We will live our fears if we do not face them!
Confronting our fears sets us free from them.
Confronting our emotions (fear , anger etc.) is one of life’s biggest challenges, learning to neither suppress or indulge in these emotions and just learning from them I think is the key to being free of them.
I believe that with persistence, the right focus's to help change our negative associations and faith ( be it in ourselves ,our creator , universe, whatever our beleifs are that we find comfort in) we can all head towards obtaining this freedom for ourselves...............


I think I think waaaay too much. Sometimes I have these moments of clarity and
eveything comes together, a light bulb moment that just makes so much sense , so I will write it all down (above ,written a while ago). I'll read over it and think, yep thats great now all I have to do is live by it.
Then the following week I get so caught up in the ego world again (so to speak) and its all out the window. How can we grasp something so well one minute and then it be completely alien to us the next????
I know that our focus's are what drive us , but sometimes it can be a real challange not letting outside influences control our focus's! I suppose that's when I need to refer back to the first part of this post and get me some persistance to focus correctly and some extra faith!!

I also think that after reading back over this I might need a panadol and bed :-) xx nite

New Species

I woke up at 7.00am the other morning to my youngest two arguing about something (surprise , surprise). I could hear Zak saying ' Its a cockroach' and Sage was saying 'No its not , its a cricket!'...
as she squealed with excitement and fear.
This went on for a good two minutes as I lay there thinking .....its 7.00am it can be the
Lock Ness Monster for all I care. Sage then comes running in and says 'Mummy, Mummy, Mummy , there is a crocket in the house!!!' This must be the cross breed of the two I suppose. :-)

Today as we searched high and low for one of Sages toys, with no luck, she comes out with , 'I know , I know, the bloody crockets got it!'.


ps. by the way it was a cricket.

My Faries

There is another little girl in my life, her name is Lara.
Lara is the daughter of my very special friend Kim ( can't put her nickname on my blog LOL).Lara is one of a kind, she has the most adorable little nature and is one of the happiest little girls around!! Always looking for how she can help or make you feel special, she regularly melts my heart.I just Love her!

Over the holidays we took the girls to a fairy shop where they did craft and listened to fairy stories, don't know about the girls, but I was in awe of all the glitter and girlieness.

Ahhhhhhhh so good to be a girl!

Little Darlings!

My cousin Kerri has recently arrived back from a work trip in Thailand.

After dressing Sage in a little Thai silk dress that she had given to her, Kerri and I started arranging my lounge room with some beautiful Thai silk cushions she had brought back for me (love em!). Mean while, our little cherubs Damon and Sage were going through my handbag and putting mascara everywhere but where mascara goes!

School Holidays

Its school holidays at the moment yeahhhhhhh! (not)

What were they thinking when they invented them!
Oh I know.... Lets see how long it takes to drive parents insane!

With their constant whining and demands ...

'I'm bored, he hit me, I'm hungry, I had it first, can I, can you, can we, she's annoying me and blah blah blah blah blah. (and that's just after day 2!)

Had we not been punished enough after 8 looooooooong weeks at Christmas time??

We were given just enough time to recuperate and then they say 'hear you go, have another two' :-)

But in all seriousness, I was speaking with my cousin the other day , she is working full time and doesn't have the option to spend the holiday's with her kids and she said to me ' I would just love to be able to be with mine'. Sometimes its just a simple statement like that that really puts things into perspective for you ( so I thought... well maybe I could take her job. No I didn't , just kidding.)

I took the kids to the Dandenong Ranges today with Pam ( Jasmine's Mum) and her girls. We all had a great day. I even got a photo of my four kids all looking in the same direction!

Miracles do happen!

Wow! they are all mine!